Your vantage point relies heavily on where you are.
When my mom was little, they were very poor. She was the eldest girl of five children so she had to take care of her younger sisters when her mom and dad were away looking for work.
They didn’t have a permanent home and most of the time they didn’t have money to pay rent, so they'd move from one apartment to another.
When the landlord knocks at the door to ask for their monthly rent, she would be the one to open it and tell them that they didn’t have any money. And of course, she would be the one they’d shout at or curse because they couldn’t pay rent.
Because of this, she vowed to herself that when she got older, she will always have money for rent.
But that never happened - and I’m really happy it never did.
The Limits of Our Vision
There’s really nothing wrong about that dream. It’s just that, it was mediocre, limited. You see, my mom’s solution to the problem she was facing was to always have money for rent. It was indeed a solution, but not the best one.
Always having money for rent meant that you always needed to have a job or other source of income with which to get the money. That’s pretty tiring and draining - always working!
And of course you can’t work forever - there will be a point when you’ll need to rest and retire. When that happens, how will you pay rent?
Don’t get me wrong - we do need to work hard. But we also need to work smart. Think bigger!
If You Can't See Clearly with Your Own Eyes, Maybe You Need Glasses
Everybody would agree that a person’s beliefs and mindset relies heavily on the place and people he grows up with - his foundation.
If he grows up in an environment with love and passion, he’ll grow up to be a passionate and loving person.
If a person grows up in a cynical and apathetic environment, guess what he’ll grow up to be?
The problem was, my mother grew up in a not so positive environment where everyone was renting out and none thought about owning property. Buying and owning a house never crossed her mind because it was an absurd idea - according to her neighbors and peers.
So how did she escape that mediocre mindset and got the idea of owning a house? She was a smart woman after all - she married my dad.
My dad had a different idea about life. He planned ahead, thought about how to make things better for his family’s future. And the best thing about him is, he didn’t want to pay rent all his life.
My mother always told me that she wouldn’t have been able to buy her own house if it weren’t for my dad. He opened her eyes and made her realize that his way was better.
Try A Different Way
Sometimes, when you are blinded by your past and there is no way for you to see clearly all by yourself, it takes another person to make you realize a better way.
But you will never see the beauty and ease of this alternative unless you accept that yours is not the best way.
When this happens, try another person’s way. Better yet, be still and pray - maybe God is telling you a better way. Try wearing glasses. Who knows, maybe it’s the best alternative that you never knew existed.